By: Rosario Cardenas
Perhaps there is nothing more painful in a relationship than infidelity; it is a betrayal that breaks trust and destroys a bond of union and commitment that had been agreed upon and that can therefore cause a crisis, not only in the dynamics of two, but also affecting the person who was hurt personally and emotionally. Loyalty and communication are two of the most important things in any relationship; truth, constancy, compliance and responsibility. A couple relationship is an implicit pact where we find affection, respect and growth. If there is no stability, if there is no satisfaction, if it falls into a betrayal like infidelity and the harmony is broken.
It is important first to understand that there are many types of infidelity and it is not limited to the most obvious, the intimate or physical relationship with a third person. Not all infidelities are the same, although they all have to do with betraying the other person. It is how they happen that has led to draw classifications. Among the best known are, for example, direct infidelity, that deliberate and planned intimate relationship with a third party, virtual infidelity, an approach with someone else through the internet, or emotional infidelity, in an affective relationship, although not physical, with another person.
Forced Infidelity: Considered as that carried out by people with low self-esteem and who do not feel loved in their relationship. It means that the person looks for something in infidelity that they do not have in their relationship. This does not mean that it is justified, it simply receives a specific name based on what motivates it, in this case, a great dissatisfaction with the current relationship, which pushes them to want to find that support and affection in someone else.
In addition, someone else’s approval and desire is sought, regardless of what the person feels towards their own partner, even if it were true love or attachment. If the harmful relationship has caused wounds, you have to work on them to heal personally, but not holding on to the affection of someone else without first having addressed the current situation. If the relationship is toxic, you have to stop it, but infidelity, in this or any other scenario, is never the answer.
