Why is my child ALWAYS angry? This is one of the questions that I receive most frequently in consultation.
Anger by itself is a generator of conflicts, children usually express it in a physical-bodily way through behaviors such as: irritability, sensitivity, impulsivity and reactivity (IRIS).
However, it is necessary to know when ANGER is the mask of: fear, shame and dependence.
Avoid:
Minimize your fears with phrases like:
It’s not so bad …
You are too old to be afraid …
Exposing and shaming your kids in front of others when they can’t do things for themselves.
Solve everyday difficulties for them.
Blaming them for not knowing how to do things the first time.
Try
Validate your emotions
I understand that this scares you …
I see your face and hear your voice, you are afraid …
When you notice that they are having difficulty doing something, go to a private place and offer your help, do not make it obvious in front of others.
Teach them the skills they need to learn for life.
Anger can be the mask of other emotions … what do you think?
