By: Maria Luisa Escobedo
Motherhood is one of those deeply complex experiences that is difficult to define in a single word or sentence. On the one hand, it is something that gives us wonderful experiences and moments every day. But on the other, it can also be incredibly tough, exhausting, and sometimes underappreciated or underappreciated. On other occasions I have talked about how lonely it can be to be a stay at home mother and now, through a post that has gone viral, a mother explains why being a full time mom is not easy, and why we should be more understanding with women who stay at home with their children.
“I’m alone… and I feel alone” It shouldn’t be a taboo that the depression of mothers who stay at home is a reality that we must deal with with understanding and support, and this is exactly what the publication on Mother’s Day is about. today we will share Written by a mother named Bridgette Anne, and accompanied by a photograph of herself in tears, this reflection shows in a real, raw and honest way, what is the day to day of a mother who stays at home, and proves that contrary to what many think, it is not easy.
Everyone thinks being a full-time stay-at-home mom is easy.That we are lucky not to have to work.That we are lazyWhich is not a “real” job, so we have nothing to complain about.But the truth is… it’s fucking lonely and overwhelming.You can’t do anything alone; going to the bathroom, enjoying a cup of coffee, reading, you can’t even wipe the muddy poop off your pants for the third time that day without someone crying or yelling at your legs.You don’t get breaks unless they’re sleeping, and you still use that time to clean.You struggle with finding ways to keep someone entertained for literally 12 hours each day.
You wear the same clothes, which smell of sweat and tears for days because they are already dirty and there is no point in ruining more clothes.You forget what it means or feels like to be an individual; because your entire existence now revolves around that child.You look at moms who work outside the home and feel jealous, because you wish you had an excuse to have an adult conversation without being interrupted.
You lock yourself in the bathroom and yell covering your mouth with a towel, while you cry because you need a second to breathe; all this at the same time that a child is banging on the door to get in…Think about it, most of us don’t even have the luxury of crying and being frustrated in peace… and when we do break down people ask themselves: “why are you crying, if you can sit all day”.I was one of those people who judged stay-at-home moms. But now I understand.
The people who said they would be there to help you have disappeared, and you are left with this overwhelming feeling of failure.My house is not clean, I am not clean, the dishes are not clean, I already screamed today, I already cried today and I have felt so fucking guilty that my son was here to witness this.But I’m alone… and I feel alone.
Look for your friends who stay home with their children… we are NOT okay.
