By: Alejandra Garcia. Psychologist
Falling in love is one of the most beautiful things that can
happen to anyone, and we are in this world to experience emotions of this kind,
so that good feelings flood us. In fact, the first love, so intense and
special, we will remember forever, although it is almost never the definitive
one, much less the best. Falling in love in adolescence is something as
complicated as it is almost impossible to avoid, because due to our situation,
due to our age, we are already beginning to feel something special inside. Love
itself should always be a positive feeling, of appreciation and attachment for
another person, but it is easy, and more so at that age, to confuse it with
desire, jealousy or the need to be with someone and not be “alone”. ”
facing the others.
There is a very important social component in the way we see
love throughout life, but it is even more intense at these ages, since we are
more exposed to what others may think of us.
How is love lived in adolescence? Adolescence is the
transition between childhood and maturity, and it usually lasts about six or
seven years, almost the same as high school, to get an idea. Teenagers are
forming their own ideas, their way of seeing the world, and it is logical that
sometimes they are confused and feel misunderstood. To all this is added the
hormonal awakening in one’s own and others’ bodies. Both they and they begin to
develop and become men and women, and that makes the attraction arise more
easily. Love is lived in a very intense and sometimes even dangerous way at
these ages, as if it were the only important thing in the world.
What is the meaning of being boyfriends? How will
your life change when you have a girlfriend for the first time? If you are
immersed in this age and you do not know very well what you are feeling for
another person, do not worry because it is something natural. Love is an
important word and it is likely that what you think is love today, tomorrow you
will understand that it was nothing more than simple attraction or desire. And
it’s okay to start dating people you like, even if you don’t know if you love
them that way or not. Being a couple at this age means sharing those doubts,
exploring those feelings and emotions with a person who can help you discover
much better what you are going through, because she will surely go through the
same thing. The first relationship is crucial and for many it can mark the rest
of their love life, but it is true that if it goes wrong, it should not be
taken into account either, since after all they are teenage loves.
What does it mean to have a stable partner? Beyond
those sporadic relationships, the so-called “rolls” we may want to
have a much more stable relationship with another person. This means that we
will spend more time together, we will share more things and above all, we will
take the relationship much more seriously, with a view to it lasting a long
time. The stability of the relationship is marked by its good condition, the
absence of important fights, how comfortable both feel within the couple… A
stable relationship is already a big word, in which love and attachment are
winning the departure to that feeling of desire and pleasure that prevails at
the beginning.
Advantages and disadvantages between serious
relationships and sporadic encounters. Although many insist on seeing it
that way, not all relationships are the same, not even when they are stable or
sporadic. Each couple has their way of understanding the relationship and it is
best to reach an agreement in which both are comfortable, whatever the
relationship is. Serious relationships are more stable and provide much more
security, although for many they are also synonymous with routine. Sporadic
encounters are usually more exciting and fun, at least at first, but in the end
we all want to have someone by our side not just for a while, but for a
lifetime.
How to overcome a couple breakup in adolescence? One
of the worst crises a teenager faces is the breakup of a relationship. After
having put a lot of effort into making it work, when everything goes to waste
the adolescent is usually left very touched, especially by that impression that
he has lost the love of his life. The intensity of feelings is much greater at
that age, and the only thing that can be done is to try to show the adolescent
that the world does not end and that he will find many other people in life.
How to advise a child who has love and relationship
problems? It is not easy for any parent to advise their children about
relationships, because the different generation marks an apparently
insurmountable distance. The best advice we can give our children is the one
that has served us well, the one that we have been learning from our own
experience. Teach them to respect their partner, to treat them well and not
to dwell too much on their heads when things are not perfect. Because the world
keeps turning even when that “eternal” love ends, always with trust
ahead.
Conclusions on how to experience falling in love in
adolescence. Adolescence is the perfect age to explore, to try new things,
to see the world as it is, including love and relationships. They live in a
very melodramatic way, but it is something normal at that age, so the best
thing to do is enjoy these relationships, always relativizing their importance
and not falling into the idea that we will find the love of our life at fifteen
years, which although possible, is unlikely.
